You may have heard the saying, “Don’t cry over spilled milk.” If you haven’t, it can be loosely translated into — Don’t worry about unfortunate things that you cannot change or that have already happened. This post is about learning how to move with the changes in life and look for alternative solutions rather than complaining about what has happened.
Have you ever been out with someone and maybe you two have plans, then all of sudden an unforeseen wrench (or paperclip depending on your outlook) gets thrown into the mix? You may think to yourself, “Oh. Okay it’s not so bad. We can just do xyz instead!” But the person you’re with doesn’t quite see it that way. It’s more of an end-of-the-world, no more chocolate, who stole the cookies from the cookie jar reaction. Obviously they saw the wrench where you saw the paperclip.
Which brings up to two points:
- Life is all about perception
- Flexibility is key to minimize stress and remain positive
What Do You See?
Let’s face it. No one wants to be around someone who complains all the time. Unless it’s for comedic relief, it does not good. Usually people do this to rally the troops and validate their qualms with whatever their issue is. People like this see the negative part of a problem versus the positive part. Sure we all do it but everything in moderation my friend. How you handle challenges in life is determined by your view of each situation. If you think your plans are ruined because of an unaccounted for variable, then your plans are ruined. However, if you look at problems with the intent to solve, your life will be much easier. You can never predict what or who might interfere with your carefully laid out plans. Know this. Accept it. Embrace it. (Of course there’s the rare occasion that an old fashion knife fight may break out…don’t embrace that)
Be Like Water
As you embrace possibilities, you will learn to move like water throughout life. As water flows around, over, and through the obstacles in the riverbed, so will you navigate the challenges that life has to offer. Find a way and take the path of least resistance. Why complain about something instead of working towards the solution? Want to change your thinking? Here are the steps to practice:
- Acknowledge the challenge/problem
- Think of possible solutions and alternatives
- Employ your solution and keep moving
Whether you’re alone or with your friends and you are faced with a challenge, maintain your mission by moving like water to head towards your goal, whatever that may be.